"Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world."
- Eleanor Roosevelt
My best friend and I have always had a tempestuous relationship.
I've known him for years and we have gone through so much together. We've flown across oceans and walked on desert, drank Spritz in Italian piazzas and ate sandwiches in the Grand Canyon. I remember us crying in the dark once at a sad movie and laughing loudly afterwards until it hurt. We have had so much fun.
Some days I really feel his support and his kind words encourage me. Occasionally, when frightened, he will judge me and effortlessly put me down, knowing exactly which buttons to push. Sometimes he tells me that I am not good enough and that I am going to fail, always directly to my face.
In spite of all this though, I know that he will always be right by my side forever and I need to constantly work on the relationship I have with him. He is after all, part of me - my history and my future wrapped into one.
We all have a best friend inside us and it's this relationship which is the most important. We can nurture this friendship in a supportive and loving way so that no matter what, there will always be that confidant with whom we can trust, who will always have our back and tell us that we are good enough and that we can do it!
Be your own BFF.
Don't forget that my piece for the brilliantly creative PoV magazine comes out tomorrow so make sure to download it for free. It's going to be great.
www.povmagazine.co.uk
So, as it's a new year, I thought it would be fun to add a little something to the mix...Hey, why not I hear you cry. This week I have added a short poll (just to the right of the post) so why not take a look and vote.
Please keep your comments coming as it's always great to hear from you. Don’t forget you can share and subscribe too if you fancy - just saying.
You are so lucky to have that friendship ... and some days so lucky to be able to survive it! Can't wait to see what you've written for PoV.
ReplyDeleteAs for the poll, interesting question, but not the type I can answer. I would be lying if I chose only one specific trait. Couldn't do it.
I am so lucky to have several BFF's. But there is one who can tell me things like "You cut your hair too short", "I've seen better shirts on you", "That dude is checking you out" and I know them to be the truth, without jealousy or any other feeling than honesty and love. So glad I've found him.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on being published!
Hey Mitch! I am finding that the friendship we have with ourselves is the one which needs most work. Thanks for checking out the mag - I am really excited. It is difficult selecting only one trait as there are so many we appreciate in life. :-)
ReplyDeleteHi Bill, you a lucky man. How nice to have a 'say it as it is' friend even when we don't want to hear the truth and is said with love. Thanks too for the congrats mister! Hope you both have a great day.
I often think of my own friends, realizing that without them, things wouldn't be the same at all. So I'm a lucky one, and apparently you are too.
ReplyDeleteOk, I'll go pick a trait. They're all good and I really don't know which one to choose. I'll try to choose the one that to me would make the world a good place even without the others.
Cheers!
Hi Jay,It's great to have friends who will be there for us in times of need. It's a difficult choice isn't it! That's a great way to choose though- what will make the world a better place...
ReplyDeleteHave a great day and thanks for the vote :-)